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I Like when Tom Hanks in that movie scene from Philadelphia says something like: “Explain It to Me, as if I am a Child“ I don't get, not only how we treat past trauma memory as a mental illness or a disorder; but how we can even accept that the client is the patient.

tierneytherapy

2021-08-17 2 min read

I Like when Tom Hanks in that movie scene from Philadelphia says something like:

“Explain It to Me, as if I am a Child“

I don't get, not only how we treat past trauma memory as a mental illness or a disorder; but how we can even accept that the client is the patient.

Imagine a client comes to see you and states:

My close friend got drunk and was doing some tomfoolery and ended up breaking their leg. I feel their pain, and frustration and want to help. I can’t afford a cast; but if you ok it; I'll be able to get it as a medical expense, I plan to put my leg in a cast, take medication for the pain of the broken leg and medication for the anger, frustration and stress of their stupidity. I feel in some way responsible for this.

2. My close friend is wheelchair bound due to a skiing accident and will never dance again. She was an excellent dancer and is distraught and angry that this happened, blaming herself for going skiing in the first place. I feel her pain deeply and have decided to get a wheelchair and confine myself to it and suffer her event in support of her, taking whatever medication and therapy she needs to show my love and support .

3. My poor child was our playing with fireworks and was standing too close and one flew up and hit him in the eye and he is now blind in that eye. I blame myself! As a parent I should have been there! Should have stopped it from happening! I've decided to wear an eyepatch in support of him, to experience his pain with him; his disability with him; so he knows, he is not in this alone; also choosing to take the medications he needs for the pain and the self loathing that he caused this to happen through foolish bravado and recklessness.

Explain it to me as a child, what would you do?

Since these events didn’t happen to these persons, they are experiencing sympathy pains, what will you do?

How does this benefit the healing process?

Would it not make the actual victim MORE GUILTY that this event is being experienced by another; by someone they care about?

That it’s not right?

We have to start to seriously look at how we treat Past Trauma Memory and PTSD. The clients who presents with these conditions are not the victims of the events, they are experiencing Sympathy Pains. They are not mentally ill or suffering disorders. They are kind hearted, good natured human beings, who care for their past younger aspects of themselves. Carrying the burden mistakenly is their only crime.

It’s time to look beyond the world of mental illness and be open and welcoming of a Spiritual Solution.

These kind hearted people have suffered enough.

They deserve to be treated as human beings; to be given back their humanity, living their lives in the present; no longer carrying a burden that was never theirs to carry in the first place.

Don’t each and everyone of us deserve our own Miracle, promised in The Book of Truthto cast out our demons: our anxieties, ptsd, doubt and hopelessness.

I could go on with the hopelessness of how we treat this condition, but the truth stands

The past it history

The path does not define us

We cannot be in two places at once

I cannot heal your sickness in my body and you cant do likewise for me

We have to treat the cause properly and not the effect!

We create the disorder when we treat the effect as the problem!